Heidi says: two Heidi's for the price of one...Sarah says:
Cool photo Heidi!
The good news is that though I feel terribly stiff in the morning and in the night, I am getting through the day with much more ease and movement and much less pain. I feel like I had better continue to be careful and take things slowly - but I am on the mend and damn happy about that!
Below you can see me resting my back with my legs in a 90 degree sort of position as the DR advised after a long day of hanging with my daughter and with my friend JVK who picked her up to take her to the sea for two days. My husband has been working away since Thursday and through Tuesday basically so I am now on my own and the house is so quiet again. I don't like quiet really. Though that happiness book (The Happiness Hypothesis) I am readings says people are more happy with less noise - I don't do so well without any noise. Maybe I just need to learn how to be quiet and calm. You would think this back problem and recovery from an operation would have taught me that by now but my foot is always wiggling and my leg is always shaking and my hands are either in my mouth (nail biting) or flailing around. I need to learn meditation according to this book,. I also need to become more religious if I am to be happy. This book claims that studies show that people who are religious and spiritual are far happier than those who aren't. My religion/morals (and my kid's) comes from shows like Little House on the Prairie and 7th Heaven. I hope those count - otherwise I am screwed in the happiness department!
Speaking of happiness, my Post Secret pick of the week, which you can see below, reminds me of something that makes me very happy --- getting zany and nutty with my kid - letting the rules go and teaching her it okay to break the rules of etiquette sometimes. It is so enjoyable to act like a kid sometimes - so for me to break the rules too. There is a fine line between teaching a kid manners and teaching a kid to express herself and be a bit free. I don't know how many times I use the expression: "it's all right to do that at home with mommy and daddy but you shouldn't do that at other people's homes" - do what you are wondering perhaps? Well, you know, talking about what shape her poop had that night, burping, passing gas, making fart jokes and songs... If you are part of my family or close inner circle, you are going to be well versed in bathroom humor I'm afraid - and that of course extends to my poor daughter. Aside from that -- there's the whole mixed-culture thing to deal with. Tonight we ordered in pizza with some friends. There's everyone eating with his/her forks and knives -- politely cutting away -- and there I am holding the pizza in my hands and eating it directly. I had to explain to my kid that at our house she could choose which way she ate pizza but at other people's homes she should pretty much sort of follow how they are eating pizza or whatever. I told her that in New York, she'd look funny eating a slice of pizza with a fork and knife... These sorts of things can come up all the time -- in very everyday stuff. I hope my kid learns how to be zany and act crazy but doesn't get too crazy from all of it!
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I follow advice for happiness from a book, too, imagine that! I agree that ultimately happiness comes from genuine love, and not just for the people loved already, but for every person. It also helps to believe that there is a God who loves you this same, unconditional way. Of course I just look for any opportunity to plug my own opinions.
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